I hate Internet dating. I hate it, I hate it, I hate it.
There, I feel better now.
Wanna know why I hate it? Let me tell you about Bachelor #41. Bachelor #41 is tall, fit, dark haired, hard to tell for sure from the pictures but might be decent looking, etc. etc. You know the drill. So he wrote to me. Note, I said HE wrote to ME. I responded, we exchanged the usual email pleasantries, then he gave me his number.
So I called, and we chatted for about half an hour. I wasn't exactly booking the wedding, but I thought the conversation went fairly well. We found a few things in common, no awkward silences, a few laughs. Then he suggested we make plans to get together. Note, again, HE suggested it, not me. We had a few challenges aligning our schedules, but after a little back-and-forth, we settled on drinks after work on Tuesday night. This all seems fairly normal, right? Typical even?
So explain this: why did he email me an hour after we got off the phone and tell me he changed his mind and decided to cancel our date?
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not losing a whole lot of sleep over this guy. I wasn't even sure if I found him attractive. HE wrote to ME, remember? HE suggested getting together. I just don't get it. I've gone over it in my head and I remain convinced that I was utterly charming, as always, and said nothing I can think of that would likely send a man running for cover.
Which leaves me perplexed. And dateless. And hating Internet dating. A lot.
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6 comments:
First, love this sight.
Second, he was probably juggling several prospects at once and got you each confused with one another.
Truly, his loss! It's not you, it's him. Been there and done the whole on-line dating thing. Not for me.
Wishing you best of luck, however.
Because he's married and got scared immediately?
That was my first thought - which, I admit, is really sh*tty - but my gut immediately thought that.
But either way - what a putz.
Wicked: first, thank you! And second, thank you!
RE: A definite possibility, but he is still online, and with a pic. Which brings me back to my original conclusion: I just don't get men!
Hrm, then I'm stumped. But the good news that is that you must not be a putz or this would make sense to you.
Good luck with the next bachelor. ;)
Maybe he is uncomfortable in social situations, including phone calls. It could be he was totally nervous and just going by rote through the list of things he feels he is supposed to do, like ask you out. Then his anxiety kicked in even more, and he backed out. Or it could be anything, really.
One time when I was set up with a woman by friends, she and I talked on the phone, had a great conversation, made plans for a date, then a few days later she called to say she couldn't date me because I had kids. Now, she knew about my kids before we talked the first time, but apparently after making plans to actually see me, it struck her that she didn't want an instant family. I congratulated her on figuring that out for herself, and moved on.
As for the man in your post, it didn't strike me that he's married.
All things are possible. Yet still none make sense...
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