I HAD A GOOD DATE.
Correct that. I had a great date. I know, it seems pretty much impossible. And in all likelihood he'll vanish off the face of the earth and I'll never hear from him again. Or maybe, just maybe...
My friend E first mentioned fixing me up with her fiance's friend a few months ago, but for a hundred reasons it got put off again and again. And, he's not big on blind dates, so we had to arrange a night when E and her fiance were free to go out with us. No exaggeration -- this has been going on for months, and for someone who goes on blind dates as often as she goes to Starbucks, that's a lot of build-up for a blind date. Turns out another friend of mine knows him too, and she also had a good feeling. This thing was getting some serious hype, and I was getting seriously nervous.
Still, I couldn't help thinking, maybe it's not such a bad thing to be out of my dating comfort zone. Sure, I'm more at ease in a regular blind date situation, with no chaperones/audience, and full control over where/when/how quickly I want to get out of there. But if you've been reading my blog, you may have noticed that that's not really working out so well for me. We are, after all, at NUMBER FORTY-NINE. That's A LOT of bad dates. So I started to enjoy the hype and the nerves. I bought new shoes. I might even confess to getting a little bit excited. I NEVER get excited about blind dates.
And, amazingly, it couldn't have gone better. Sure, it was a smidge awkward at the beginning, but nothing a couple of cocktails couldn't look after. All in all, dinner was relaxed, comfortable and fun. Bachelor #49 was smart, charming, funny, engaging, confident, and sophisticated, yet warm, open and sincere. And it didn't hurt that he's dark haired, sexy, and successful too. Check, check, check, check. I'm not one to kiss and tell the Internet, so I won't go into details here ... but let's just say it was truly a lovely evening.
If there is any kindness in this universe with my name on it, he will call. If not, there's going to be a hell of a pity party, so think good thoughts for me.
Stay tuned...
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I recently found your blog, and it has quickly become part of my daily "must read" list.
Your blog is hilarious. You are a very talented writer. Now, I am not quite selfish enough to hope that #49 follows in the footsteps of his 48 less than illustrious predecessors just so that I can continue to enjoy the laughs. However, if #49 ends up being a keeper, I do request that you find some other topic(s) of daily life to become the subject of future blogging so that your loyal readers can continue to get their periodic fix of your humor.
Bob - Thanks for de-lurking and for the very kind words -- that is very nice to hear. In fact, that may be the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me. I might have to print your comment out and frame it.
Re: Bachelor #49, no word yet, although apparently according to everyone but me that is perfectly normal and no reason for panic. Yet. Either way, I think it's safe to say that even in the unlikely event that I actually find myself in a relationship, my neurotic tendencies will manifest themselves in other areas and I will report here. Usually I do pretty good job of unintentionally sabotaging the hard-won relationship once I find one. Should provide lots of material...
It's funny that you mention the "comfort zone." I was taking one of those "leadership skills" classes recently, and the trainers pointed out that sometimes you have to get out of your psychologically-defined comfort zone to effect change. I think of it as pushing the "crazy" button and seeing what happens.
Anyway, I will concur with Bob in saying that you are a witty person and a good writer. I also want to tell you that I hope and pray that things work out for you and the 49er. Maybe being non-neurotic (or at least ona reduced neurosis?) is also getting out of the comfort zone? OK, don't change who you are; it just wouldn't be fun!
There is a parallel to job-hunton here: Many people have to go through 100 letters and interviews to get a good job offer. SO maybe having close to 50 dates before finding someone decent isn't so far-fetched.
Again, all the best, and keep us posted.
Del - I totally agree that getting out of your comfort zone is probably the key to everything. Don't they say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result?
Meanwhile, I'm still sitting by the phone (there are those neurotic tendencies again...) but thanks for the kind words and hoping the universe is listening!
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